Leaving Wisdom

Part of me feels for former Dir. Comey. It is no fun to be publicly fired and everyone wants to justify themselves. The only thing is how does one do it wisely. People take a myriad ways of handling this.

Usually people fall between two extremes. The one extreme is their whole lives are consumed by telling everyone about that painful experience. They are the hero of the tale of how they were right. The other extreme is they just never talk about it and get on with their lives. My key word is life is balance or symmetry. We need to talk but never letting go is bad.

The thing that I have seen in life is people who no longer grow because they live in the past. They seek justice which if it comes probably won’t satisfy. It is best to live in the present and learn from the past. The problems with wanting others to be perfect is we stop working on ourselves and we are in a holding pattern waiting for them to make a decision.

Trump fires people. George Steinbrenner fired people. One should not get bent out of shape by people being who they have always been. Comey looks like a louse by being disloyal to a former boss. He may be right but how does anyone trust him anymore. In my opinion he lost more than he gained.

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29 Responses to Leaving Wisdom

  1. 10 Cents10 Cents says:

    I am using Comey just because it is topical but this topic can be discussed about any of our relationships. We are and have known people who unwittingly make themselves look bad by whining and bad mouthing. (Vald is an exception.)

  2. 10 Cents10 Cents says:

    I think it is best to leave as graciously as possible. Remember the good times and move on. This usually works because if the other party is bad your graciousness shows a contrast. Also people who make mistakes like the Lay’s Potato Chip ad can never just take one.

  3. Percival says:

    I try to feel sympathy for Comey, but nothing happens. If he had quit before exonerating Hillary, or done so when he says now that Trump was trying to influence him, that would be honorable, even if you disagreed with him. Leaking his “memos” to a friend to send to the press is low.

  4. PencilvaniaPencilvania says:

    I can’t feel sympathy for someone that tall. Tall people get undeserved perks. Does that sound small of me?

  5. DevereauxDevereaux says:

    Comey is falling into a large group – all those who don’t seem to be able to get over their “loss”. The NYT seems to be in the lead. WaPo is a close second.

    All his posturing has only shown him to be a lowlife. If he had really wanted to uphold the FBI he would have shown some dignity. Instead he has shown himself to be a thug – and an inept one.

  6. TKC1101TKC1101 says:

    Another corrupt poser with delusions of virtue.

    Save us from the self deluded clowns who break the law for their side and bend it for their opponents.

    There are a lot of Comeys in large organizations and none can be trusted.

    Give me the jerk from Queens, who may loan your car to a jerk, but will take a bullet to protect your kids.

  7. 10 Cents10 Cents says:

    Why is Comey not better? One would think that the head of the FBI would not act this way.

    Also if you have to prove you have virtue you are probably doing it wrong. Virtuous people are busy doing not showing.

  8. ctlaw says:

    Comey is a piece of excrement who has skated through life by being tall.

    His prior testimony was absurd. He testified at his outrage over the Lynch-Clinton airport meeting. Basically he said that this clearly sent a message that the fix was in and thus made it difficult to fix. He was so proud of himself for then coming up with a way to put the fix back in.

    Of course that was all insanity. In any sane world, had the underlying case been close (and it was not), the airport meeting would have pushed Comey to recommend prosecution.

    The more recent testimony only highlights the double standard.

  9. DevereauxDevereaux says:

    It’s way more than a double standard. It is excessive hallucination by the left.

    • 10 Cents10 Cents says:

      If the Left didn’t have hallucinations and double vision they would be able to see anything at all. The truth is really inconvenient for these people.

  10. SeawriterSeawriter says:

    If we are speaking in general terms about leaving graciously after being unfairly terminated from a job, James Comey is a poor launching pad. If anyone deserved to be fired it was Comey. That he was fired in the worst way possible, just adds a cherry to the top of the ice cream sundae.

    If you listened to his testimony, the man gave off echos of J. Edgar Hoover. Comey kept secret files on people. He failed to provide appropriate advice to his superiors. And he gave a creepy feeling that he was doing both of those things to provide job security for himself.

    I expected no less than an ungracious departure from a thuggish man who should never have been in that position.

    Seawriter

  11. SeawriterSeawriter says:

    As for me, when I am let go from a job, I just go and go quietly. Even when I feel I have been scapegoated.

    My attitude is I was let go for one of three reasons:

    1. There was no job anymore.

    2. I was not doing the job.

    3. They did not appreciate what they had.

    In the first case, it is usually because the company shut down. Happened a few times. Why sweat it?

    In the second case, I should have been let go. In the third case, it is their loss not mine. Often it is not really apparent whether I really could not cut the job or whether I was set up until years later. In either case, why waste energy on recriminations or revenge? Better to spend it on something positive going forward. Future success really is the best revenge, anyway.

    Seawriter

  12. 10 Cents10 Cents says:

    My new hero Jordan Peterson is wise. He realizes that he does not always get it right so he has a group of trusted friends give him advice and critique his actions. It is painful at times but he learns. He is a psychologist and knows how easy it is to deceive oneself.

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